it is what you make of it

"Most relationships are transactional."

Wait. Isn't "It is what you make of it"? 

I read the first thought in the wee hours of the morning, and in the 12 hours since then, my soul has screamed out in disagreement. 

God is love. This is the foundation to all things, in my opinion. Love is the tie that binds. Love in some form is the basis of all relationships. A relationship forged by a common interest, by a common goal, by attraction, or even shared DNA, all have a love of something or someone as its core. 
If love is your foundation, how can any relationship be transactional? Love can only be freely given, it is not a currency, and if it weaponized into a currency, I have to argue that at that point it is no longer love. You're giving of yourself in any type of relationship. When you choose to charge for that, that is when it becomes transactional. Then the relationship has walls and boundaries, and love is no longer free flowing.  At this point, you stifle God, that divine Love that knows no walls, that simply IS. 

In any of our relationships, don't we have the choice? We can choose how we receive, and how we give. Love is free and never wasted, because it is the Divine in us, shared with all those we come in contact with. Deserved or not. 
Relationships are what you make of them. Letting them be transactional stifles the Divine in you. Changing your mind to love being a gift freely given by the One, changes everything. It's when we create expectations for the giving and receiving of love that disappointment arises and boundaries are placed. 

Love freely. Love with abandon. Love because it is not your own, but The One that lives in us.