Option 3

Options 1 &2 were shot down. The basis for my theory for option 2 was faulty. I was still operating on old information, in which he didn't want me to leave, initially. But he has since realized, I guess, that he is better with me not close by. I have to admit, it is super frustrating to always be on the opposite page. Found out during our conversation tonight that we weren't even on the same page to begin with. But, here's the deal, that John Mayer song, "half of my heart", well- Before I moved there, he let the part of his heart out that was falling in love with me out, and when he let pieces of the other half out, I was under the impression that he was just being cautious.  But then the other half of his heart won out, and the acreage that I had started shrinking.

Option 1 I'm not quite ready for- because I still think I'm better because of him.

Option 3. What does it look like? I'm not sure. A lot like 1, to be perfectly honest with you. The doing life together is not going to happen, so I have had to retract my feelings enough to be okay with that. Instead of letting him have all the acreage in my head and heart, I have to be an indian giver and take it back. But, he doesn't want it anyway, so no worries there.
So what remains? The fond memories, enduring love....but that's all it can be. 
I had already let go of my hopes for the future, and then I had to stop wallowing, and now... now I have had to let go of the memory of the other half of his heart, and the dream house on acreage I had started to build- but was then destroyed.

I am fine alone. It's much simpler. Not as rewarding, and not as edifying, but ever so much easier.